Ipohworld's World

Saving Yesterday For Tomorrow

 

A TRIBUTE TO MOM  献给天下间的母亲

Dearest Mom, how can I ever forget

the simple joy of nestling in your loving arms

and suckling contently at your milky breasts

that gave me the nourishments of life.

Dearest Mom, how can I ever describe

your kind smile that I saw through my tears

as I took a fall and you whispered to my ears

that it is sometimes alright to take a tumble in life.

Dearest Mom, how can I ever thank you enough

for the wisdom that you taught me as I grew up

and the love you gave me so unconditionally

which is the sweetest nectar I have tasted in life.

The lovely lady in this photo is my beloved late mom, Madam Chow Chiew Sai. This photo was taken in 1945 for match making purpose. It was taken at an unknown studio in Ipoh, most probably near Kg Kuchai where she stayed during her younger days. In those days, match making was the norm upon reaching marriageable age.

In this photo she sported the “abalone” hairstyle made famous by the popular mainland Chinese songstress, Zhou Xuen周璇. Mom was a big fan, always humming her songs as she goes about doing her chores. For this photo session, she also sewed herself a set of samfoo to complete the pretty look. Needless to say, she won my dad’s heart straight away!

From cradle to grave, Mom never had it easy. Her own mother died when she was only six and being the eldest child, she had to take care of her siblings and doing all the house work even though she is still a child herself. And in those days there were no electricity or tap water, much less gas stove! So she has to draw water from the well and chop fire woods as a child.

After marriage, she had to face abusive in- laws and in old age debilitating illness.But Mom is a very resilient and gentle person. She has never throw a tantrum nor even rise her voice. Despite the many hardships, she and Dad managed to give my siblings and me a decent childhood and for that we are forever indebted and grateful to them both.

This coming Sunday is Mother’s Day. Even though she is no longer with me but she is always in my heart and in my mind. And I like to take this opportunity to thank her and also to wish her a Happy Mother’s Day and may she rest in eternal peace.

Of course, I also like to wish all the wonderful moms in the world a HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY. Mothers are our guardian angels. As the Jewish proverb puts it aptly “God cannot be everywhere, therefore he created mothers.”

  1. riversidegrass says:

    Hi!
    Ipohgal,
    Thanks for remind me about “Mother’s day.
    Haaaaa………men are really forgetful, maybe sometime a bit heartless,heeee….I hope men won’t hate me on this………haaaaaaa…anyway just a joke.

    “A father may turn his back on his child, … . but a mother’s love endures through all.”
    Washington Irving
    US essayist, historian, & novelist (1783 – 1859)

    “A mother understands what a child does not say.”
    Jewish Proverb

    “Some are kissing mothers and some are scolding mothers, but it is love just the same.”
    Pearl Buck, quoted in O Magazine, May 2003
    US novelist in China (1892 – 1973)

    Wishing all mothers and also mothers-to-be have a Happy Mother’s Day !

    p.s.
    Well do drop by to my newly setup blog, http://www.riversidegrass.blogspot.com

  2. ipohgal says:

    Oops,sorry, I have forgotten to mention grandmothers and god mothers too! Thanks Felicia for the reminder. So once again,Happy Mother’s Day to all the women who brought us up one way or another.

  3. Louis says:

    It’s Saturday night and Mothers’ Day tomorrow. Let’s raise a glass and wish them all the happiest of days wherever they are. Cheers!

    By the way, thank you for reminding me about tomorrow, I had completely forgotten. Do think you can remember my wedding anniversary for me – that’s another problem in my life.

  4. ika says:

    Hi Riversidegrass, we don’t object to you putting a link to your site on ipohWorld’s World, but hope that you will reciprocate by leading your readers to us with a link on your blog.

  5. ipohgal says:

    Hi riversidegrass,thanks for your link! I suppose it was a site that collects interesting articles which we sometimes overlooked.It was very educational and informative.

    Now I knew the founder of Mother’s Day celebrations and besides human mothers,some animals made wonderful moms too.Once again,thanks for your sharing!

  6. PT says:

    What a heart-warming tribute from a daughter to a mother.
    Ipohgal’s tribute to her mum reminds me of my own mum who passed on at the age of 94.
    She also struggled hard during her early married life, having to put up with poverty and an abusive and violent husband. Many times, when she could not take it anymore, she packed and returned to her sister’s home in Teluk Anson (now Teluk Intan). But not for long, she had to come back because of the 4 kids. To top it all, my father took a mistress when I was 3. Because of this, his meager allowance to the family of 7 mouths turned sporadic and lesser. I can still remember those times when there was not a grain of rice in the rice vase, my mum bought wheat grains to make porridge and we ate it with cream crackers as our meal. To augment the family income, she baby-sat, washed and ironed clothes for neighbours. And my father never once valued her for her selfless contributions.

  7. ipohgal says:

    Hi PT,

    Thanks for your comments on this article.

    Somehow women, especially in those days, were always on the losing end. My maternal grandma, my mom, your mom…… More so if they do not receive adequate education or have a stable job. Therefore, education and financial independence are very important for every women to cushion them in times of distress.

    My heart goes out for your poor mom. Many women choose to remain unmarried nowadays. They preferred to remain single rather than to be married to a useless slug. Worse if they have very abusive, hostile or interfering in-laws. It is like hell on earth.

    Sad to say, many women are still suffering at the hands of their irresponsible spouses and unsympathetic in-laws. Many of them have untold miseries.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

You may use these HTML tags and attributes:

<a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <s> <strike> <strong>